I had heard and read a lot about the so called “Postpartum Depression” when I was pregnant and I just laughed over it every time. I was so sure that I would never be the one to get affected as I was very confident about myself being quite a strong person. But then it hit me, next day after I delivered. And it hit me hard! I wanted to scream my lungs out. What was this happening to a jolly person like me? My body wasn’t the same as before, I had a crying baby who wanted milk often, peed and pooped all day. I looked fat and ugly to myself. There was absolutely no reason for my anxiety. He had no health issues and it wasn’t like I had anything to worry about, but for some reason, I just couldn’t control these awful feelings. And I just couldn’t understand why?! I felt like I was drowning.
My family and husband were beyond supportive but for some reason, I continued to feel like I couldn’t get air. My only escape was crying. My Postpartum Depression was getting more and more intense, day by day, gripping me tighter. My husband, who loves me more than himself, tried to show me the reasons to be happy, mainly my baby who needed me. But in vain! I found my baby, whom i gave birth to after lot of complications and previous losses, to be my biggest enemy. I was scared, I would hurt him some night. Then suddenly my husband offered me a vacation 25 days after my delivery and I was like, “what”? I have not recovered, my baby is small! He pushed me and took me in nature’s lap.
“Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure. ”
I left all my frustration there and slowly was a happy person once again. I had my husband to my rescue. We all have that special someone. I wanted to share my experience to let you know that it is okay to seek help. Help is good and sometimes what you have to do to make it through another day. Whether it is Postpartum Depression or just the stress of every day life – seeking help and leaning on a supportive friend or doctor during a difficult time will make everything much better. Read through my tips on how I overcame this awful devil of a problem and how you can to. Always remember, this too shall pass.
1. ITS PERFECTLY NORMAL:
Remind yourself that nothing is wrong with you. It happens to the best of us and you will power through with the love, support and the help that you need.
2. SEEK HELP
Let family & friends help. If you are a control freak like me, you have to tell yourself that is okay to let people in to help you. You need your rest and you can’t fight postpartum depression without sleep. You have to take care of YOU! This isn’t a time to be strong.
Throw yourself a pity party. This isn’t the time to put your big girl pants on. You have to give yourself permission to cry. IT IS OKAY.
Have your spouse focus their attention on you. Sometimes you just need some extra love.
5. PERFECTIONIST? LET IT GO:
Being a mother is far from being perfect, it’s impossible. You are human and make mistakes. You simply have to accept that no one is perfect and some things are out of your control.
6. THE WORLD IS YOUR OYSTER:
Whatever it may be, get out of the house and do something fun to take your mind off the blues. “Be the kind of woman who, when your feet hit the floor in the morning the Devil says, ‘oh no, she’s up’!”
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This Write-up was Contributed by Surbhi Agarwal
About Author: Born in Delhi and settled in Bareilly, Surbhi loves travels around the globe with her sailor husband. Mother of a 2.5 months old son, Surbhi loves to test her creative skill and is also an amateur writer. She says, “The sea life has taught me things that are tough to learn on land. My husband is my strength and he has made me who I am!”
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